Gabriel asks: What do I do if I see someone that I like? And what would work on you?

Gabriel,

There’s no surefire way to succeed when approaching women (unless you’re just that badass and chicks are practically falling at your feet and desperate to be with you). Every girl is different and it will probably take you a bit of practice before you’re comfortable enough to approach women nonchalantly.

But honestly?
The easiest thing that you can do when stumbling onto someone that you are attracted to is: Approach them and say hello. From my experience, straight forward honesty goes a long way.

In fact, it almost doesn’t even matter what you say to her because for the most part, it works like this: If the girl is attracted to and feels comfortable with you, she’ll respond positively and act receptive to the conversation (no matter what the topic). And if she’s not interested? She’ll find some excuse to either politely ditch you, or to blow you off completely. Which stinks, I know. But them’s the ropes, kid!

Fortunately, there are things in this world which make approaching women you are interested in that much easier. Take the Skout application, for example: It’s easy to strike up a conversation when all you have to do is shoot them a quick message.

But what do you say?
How do you act?
What do you do?

Personally, I’m somewhat of a blunt person and am pretty fearless in the face of rejection (especially when it comes to some stranger that I just happen to find attractive). So for me, it’s as easy as approaching him and saying, “You are hot. Give me your number immediately.”

That seems to have worked pretty well for me in the past. ;-P

But yeah, yeah — I understand that not everyone is going to find approaching a complete stranger and demanding that they pay attention to you an easy task. So I reached out to the community and gathered some feedback just for your question (and because I rule).

Here is what they said!

“The way I caught my bf’s attn was straight up going up to him and introducing myself. No giggling or small talk. Assertiveness!”
- Mylene, via Twitter

“If I see someone that I’m attracted to, I usually make small talk if the situation we’re in makes sense.”
- Chris, via Facebook

“Go up to them and grab their balls.”
- Raina, via Facebook (Lol, please don’t do this.)

“Depends when and where on how I would spark the conversation, but I would definitely approach them at just the right moment.”
- Cesar, via Facebook

“Smile…Stare…Wave…. At amusement parks i yell “OW OW!!!” xD I would want him to make me laugh somehow. Like…put oh a sweet pair of shades at the mall, give me a head nod and a little click . Id laugh and melt all at the same time! Ask me for my number and we’d text .”
- Kate, via Facebook

“Bend and snap, girl! Just kidding. I don’t get interested in complete strangers.”
- Annachronisms, via Tumblr

“Roll over near her, throw something on the ground and ask her to “Please help!!!” Then “How can I repay you? Dinner?” Handicapped 4 the win!”
- Chuck, via Tumblr

That would totally work on me, Chuck.

Anyhoo! I hope that I’ve answered your question.
It’s better to act on your instincts than to completely dismiss the idea of approaching somebody. Girls can’t read your mind! They won’t know that you’re into them unless you make it known. Ask and ye shall receive!

Or.
Y’know.
You could just watch them walk away and fantasize about the life that you two could’ve had together.

To our readers here on TheFlirtBlog.com, what would you do if you saw someone that you were interested in? And what would work on you? Be sure to let us know! And if you have any questions of your own or just need to get something off of your chest, get in touch!

And as always? Happy flirting, Skouts.
XOXO Cheri XOXO

Brianna asks: “My boyfriend and I have been dating for about two months now, but it’s a completely long distance thing. We rarely ever get to see each other (maybe once a month or so), and I’m really worried that we won’t work out. What should I do?”

Brianna,
Your question actually comes at the perfect time. I’m in something of a long distance “relationship” as well, so I’m able to speak from experience. And to be perfectly honest, I am just as worried (if not more so) about what’s going to happen as you are!

And you know what?
That’s totally fine!

Relationships are meant to be a little scary at first — it’s all part of the fun, right? Not knowing what to expect. Not knowing what comes next. Not knowing what he’s thinking, or what she’s thinking, or what’s right around the corner. The nerves and worries are all a part of the dating process, and long distance relationships are no exception.

So what should you do?
Well, the first step is realizing that it is totally human to worry a little bit while in a long distance relationship. It’s a sign that you care, and you should embrace it as a positive thing (especially if you want things to work out). Accept that your feelings are valid and have a little confidence in yourself! Nothing is wrong with you for wanting things to work out. So stop stressing, okay?

Secondly, I’ve found that keeping an open line of communication is the most important part of any relationship — long distance or not. So if you really just need to get those worries off of your chest, let him know! Allowing those feelings just build up inside of you is going to make you explode. And in a long distance relationship, honesty is definitely the best policy. If you need reassurance from him, just ask him for it! This may come as a shock to you, but no, boys actually can’t read our minds. Who knows? Maybe he’s just as worried as you are! So open up to him. It helps build that trust that you both need to keep those worry-warts at bay.

And finally, never be afraid to reach out to the people who care about you (like friends or family), or to indulge in the things that make you happy. In a long distance relationship, you are given a rare opportunity to explore a large amount of “personal space”. Take advantage of that. With all the time that you and your mate spend apart, you could be pursuing things that make you happy as an individual rather than as a couple. Occupy yourself with things that you enjoy. By pampering yourself and keeping your mind busy, you’ll spend more time being satisfied and less time worrying.

To our readers here on TheFlirtBlog.com, do you have any advice for Brianna? And if you have any questions of your own or just need to get something off of your chest, be sure to let us know (anonymous or not)! Sometimes, it helps to get another person’s opinion when it comes to matters of the heart.

So as always? Happy flirting, Skouts.
XOXO Cheri XOXO

Today we released Skout for Android! This is the first location based dating app for Android, and we are very excited to keep pushing the limits for what’s possible in the people discovery space! Enjoy!